Si gadis 19 tahun ini antara finalis Dewi Remaja 2018/19 kali ini. Biarpun tiada rezeki untuk terpilih sehingga ke top 5, Arena atau nama penuhnya Arena Wan Mun-Yi Iman Wan tetap gembira berada dalam top 12.
Malah, lebih membanggakan apabila dia berjaya meraih Anugerah Dewi Favorite di dalam program berkenaan menerusi undian peminat.
Rupa-rupanya Arena adalah kakak kepada Adam Wan ‘Adam Autism Family’, selain merupakan anak kepada komposer terkenal, Iman Wan.
Menerusi pemerhatian di laman sosial Instagram milik Arena; @arenalieya, gadis yang mahir bermain gamelan, piano, ukulele dan gitar ini cukup rapat dengan adiknya itu. Malah, dia pernah membuat thread berkenaan adik istimewanya itu menerusi laman twitter.
Rata-rata yang membaca thread tersebut menyifatkan ia satu perkongsian yang sangat berinspirasi terutama sekali kepada mereka yang mempunyai ahli keluarga autisme.
Lahir dalam keluarga campuran Cina (ayah) dan Melayu (ibu), Arena mempunyai adik autistik yang 2 tahun lebih muda daripadanya.
Menerusi thread berkenaan, Arena mengakui cukup gembira waktu kecil dahulu apabila diberitahu bakal mendapat adik. Namun dia kemudiannya mendapat tahu adiknya itu tidak senormal kanak-kanak lain.
Ketika itu usianya baru empat tahun dan belum mengerti apa-apa. baginya, Adam seperti kanak-kanak normal lain. Sehinggalah menginjak ke usia 12 tahun Arena mula terasa kelainan tersebut.
Perangai Tantrum Adam sering menarik perhatian orang ramai ketika keluar bersama keluarga menyebabkan Arena malu. Pandangan orang ramai terhadap keluarga mereka juga membuatkan Arena tidak selesa.
Hampir-hampir kehilangan adiknya di dalam kompleks membeli belah memaksa Arena menjadi penjaga kepada adiknya itu setiap kali mereka keluar bersama. Ini kerana Arena cukup pantas mengejar si adiknya
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Being away from home is hard, coming back home to my family , going back to the same routine is hard as well. It’s not something I can change. Which is why I promised myself, to my parents, that I will look out for Adam & Ara in the future . Can’t say after Dewi Remaja will change my life because I know, even lepas Dewi Remaja pun, I still have to take care of my brother,my family. People who don’t really know me might not get me and might get turned off because I don’t know how to talk and yes , I admit . I never knew how to express myself in words , especially in Malay . And this has been a problem of mine for many years. I can say i ni jenis ‘lurus bendul’ .. maybe that’s just my nature,or how I was born . So yes i guess I can say that im complicated . I joined Dewi Remaja not because of fame or popularity but for the experience which I’ve never had in my life. Since I’ve always been with my family all my life . And again please don’t assume saying that I’m using my brother. If I ever talk about my brother doesn’t mean I want to use this as an advantage. Adam is my brother, he’s apart of me . He is my life so memang my family is always involve with me. So I guess i can say being in dewi remaja is a once in a lifetime opportunity and I’m grateful to be where I am today. I know for a fact that there so much that I need to learn. I know i have many weakness’s .. but I’ll make the best out of it to improve myself and to learn. So I just wanna thank everyone who has been supporting me and for being understanding although some might not understand but it’s okay , my job is to not please everyone . I’ve tried my best. And I did my part .
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It’s true , my parents know me better . even i can’t understand myself sometimes?❤️ #Repost @adamsautismfamily ・・・ While many girls at her age hung out with friends, Arena hung out only with Adam. Stayed home most of the time to help out with Adam. Arena pretty much was with Adam 24/7. She can’t even have friends over. . So naturally after a while, her friends became not so friendly cause it wasn’t fun being friends with Arena. People don’t really have much interaction opportunity with her. Circumstances resulted in Arena falling behind in her social skills. She somewhat became irrelevant to girls her age. Arena was talking about stuff that most teenagers would consider childish, not cool, naive, and boring. Why? Cause she spent her teenage and growing up years practically taking care of her brother. . Indeed my daughter is less matured for her age. She has a hard time communicating and expressing herself accordingly. But let me say this from the bottom of my heart. Arena understands about life in ways many girls her age, even grown ups may never. She has a heart of gold, she is thoughtful, kind, generous, she lives with compassion and always put others before her. She has sacrificed much. . Indeed in the eyes of all, Arena is no Dewi Remaja quality. She has flaws. There are many more qualified individuals who did not make the final 12. Somehow my girl did. I am so happy for her. To me that’s 100% her rezeki. Maybe it was her reward for all the years of sacrificing taking care of her brother. . If she goes all the way to top 5, it would be a miracle. Very unlikely I would say. And if she has to be eliminated and come home, let it be. Coz’ at home she is, has been, and forever will be our darling Dewi. We are so proud of you already @arenalieya come what may. It’s a blessing for those who know you and look at you beyond your flaws. Just keep smiling sweetheart. May Allah guide and protect you always. Remember that you are never alone. #dewiremaja2018 #majalahremaja #adamsautismfamily #autismsiblings #autismjourney #adamwan #mybrother #kindness #compassion #autismawareness @idanixh @raihana_aof @arenalieya
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Percaya tak kepada rezeki Jika allah dah tentukan? I believe that so much . because that could relate to me alot. I think , it’s bcs of all those years helping my parents looking out for my brother .. is the reason why Allah has finally decided to bless me . and I think where I am today , being in DW, is because of My brother’s rezeki. I’ve always thought my life isn’t that special , I’ve always thought it’ll be the same thing . The same routine . But Allah always has the best plan for us. Segalanya, Allah tentukan. And alhamdulillah , I am so grateful to be where I am today . I am definitely lucky.
Sebagai kakak sulung dan mempunyai adik yang istimewa, bukanlah satu hal yang mudah. Sementelah ibu bapa terpaksa memberi tumpuan penuh kepada adiknya itu. Namun Arena memahami akan perkara tersebut.
Sehinggalah usianya 13 tahun, Arena mendapat seorang adik perempuan. Itulah yang dinanti-nantikannya selama ini. Kehadiran adik baru ini membuatkan Arena mengenal erti tanggung jawab.
Biarpun adiknya Adam mula bertindak ganas, namun Arena belajar erti tanggung jawab sebagai kakak sulung. Dalam mententeramkan adiknya itu, kadang kala Arena mengalami kecederaan kecil termasuklah muka dan lengan dicakar dan sebagainya.
Namun, kasih sayang terhadap adiknya itu tetap utuh. Dek kerana itu jugalah dia tidak mempunyai kawan rapat di luar sana. Sementelah masanya banyak dihabiskan di rumah.
Sehinggalah dia menyertai Dewi Remaja dan hampir-hampir melupakan hasrat tersebut apabila Adam tantrum yang sangat teruk. Kisah tersebut dikongsikan oleh ayahnya menerusi instagramnya.
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Arena told me months ago that she wanted to audition for Dewi Remaja. The day finally came today and guess what? I had to be in Miri for a prior commitment, and Adam has been unstable since last night. She almost did not make it to the audition. . Adam had a meltdown this morning while I was boarding the flight to Miri. Arena helped mommy with Adam. She had no time to prepare herself for her audition. As she was running late, mommy decided to send Arena. They had to bring Adam along obviously. . As soon as they drove off, Adam threw another tantrum. Poor Arena who was trying to keep her cool and focus had to help mommy again in the car. Adam got so aggressive that they pulled over for Arena to get out of the car to avoid getting hurt. . According to mommy, our daughter looked so stressed. Arena had wanted to cancel her audition because of her brother’s unstable conditions. Since I wasn’t around, she wanted to stay with mommy just in case. But my wife insisted she went for the audition. Mommy drove her all the way there with Adam kicking the car seats, yelling on top of his voice, hitting the window. He was on the verge of another meltdown. I can imagine my daughter’s emotional state. . I manage to text Arena. I told her to just leave everything to Allah. If it’s meant for you to be at the audition and to do well, it will happen one way or another. If you get to the audition, just be yourself and be as honest as possible. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to have Allah’s blessings. That was my advice to her, while I was also texting my wife regarding Adam’s updates. . Just an hour ago, Arena sent me these pictures and said that she has been shortlisted. My girl sounded so happy. And this daddy could not be more proud of her daughter. It’s not so much that she was shortlisted, but of how she had held herself together and rough it through all the challenges today to attend the Dewi Remaja auditions. I too have to acknowledge the strength and bravery of my wife who insisted and help Arena get to the auditions. Alhamdulillah. . #adamsautismfamily #autismfamily #autismsiblings #arenawan #dewiremaja2018 @idanixh @arenalieya @raihana_aof
Mengakui bukan mudah mempunyai ahli keluarga yang menghadapi autisme. Namun Arena tetap positif dan menjadi kakak yang penyayang dan begitu melindungi adik-adiknya.
Malah Arena bersyukur kerana memiliki adik seperti Adam yang mengajarnya supaya lebih berkeyakinan, sabar serta bersyukur dengan apa yang dia ada selama ini.